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Hi everyone, just a quick note to let you know that we have some new moderators on the forums, no doubt you're familiar with these guys.and 8 others.
So if you have questions, complaints, requests to delete that post you drunkenly bashed out at 3am and now regret, moderators are:
I get what @GredalBee is getting at. It seems to me that if you’re not one of those men who treats women like this, then the conversation is not directed at you and you have no reason to be concerned. False allegations are incredibly rare, and used as a distraction to negate the vast, vast majority of true allegations. But even if you are not a man who treats women like this, I bet you know men who do. And I bet you do nothing about it, even if it bothers you. And if it bothers you, think how the women subjected to it feel.and 4 others.
And if you’re a man who feels uncomfortable about another man being called out for this kind of behaviour, then maybe it’s because you worry about your own behaviour (past or present), or that of your friends and relatives, being examined. I keep seeing (hetero) men going on about how they feel afraid to interact with women now. Good. Maybe they should stop and think about their interactions - are you part of the problem? Do you make comments to random women about their appearance? Have you nagged and coerced your SO into sex when she clearly doesn’t want to do it? Do you make women feel uncomfortable with your words and/or behaviour? Do you even bother to notice if you’re making them uncomfortable? Instead of pulling out this instantly defensive #notallmen bullshit, maybe just shut up, sit back, and think about how you pass through the world and what effect you have. Or maybe ask the women in your life about times other men have made them feel uncomfortable or threatened or afraid or even just frustrated or dismissed. Ask them if they’ve ever had controlling boyfriends. Ask them whether they’ve ever had to deal with a creepy co-worker. I could pretty much guarantee you they will have a long list of stories. So even if you are one of the “good” guys, you have something to learn if you just make the effort to stop arguing and start listening.
I am happy that women are finally feeling comfortable enough to publicly call out men for their shitty behaviour. I hope it continues until finally men feel so uncomfortable about it they actually start to consider change. I won’t hold my breath, though.
And on the earlier topic of the leanings of this forum, everyone knows this is a largely left-leaning space. I don’t go to Breitbart and start complaining that 99% of the people there don’t agree with me. If you lean right, you will be challenged here, by multiple people. If you can handle that, fine - feel free to state your opinions (within the rules of the forum). If you don’t like that, then there are plenty of right wing forums out there who will confirm your world view and pat you on the back for upsetting some bleeding heart SJWs.
Congratulations! My only useful advice is to avoid internet parenting forums like the plague. I'm not even kidding. They are a hot bed of judgemental crazies and no matter what you're doing there will be an online gang ready to pile on and tell you you're doing it wrong and probably abusing your child in the process.and 4 others.
I have one child (18 now) and as someone who didn't grow up around much younger siblings and had no parent friends at the time, I was clueless. I basically treated my daughter like a tiny adult - spoke to her like I would anyone else from day one (a bit less colourful swearing, perhaps), took her with me out for breakfast or to cafes or when she was a bit older to movies and whatever artsy thing I wanted to look at. She's turned out to be a gem - which could be just her nature, but I like to take the credit. ;-)
Edit: babies make the weirdest noises. Don't panic when you hear all that snuffling and snorting they do throughout the night!
seanray said:So why is what she said any worse than what Colbert says every week on “our cartoon President?”
opps. Sorry I forgot, it’s okay when people shit on Trump and his supporters, never mind.
asmallcat said:I realized at about age 27 that in the song "I saw mommy kissing Santa Claus," it's the dad dressed up as Santa, not the mom cheating on the dad with Santa.
I have to say, Mike is not as on the ball as he should be. First he let Werner get away with yakking it up, then running off. Shouldn’t his guys have told him straight away about the pixel thing? It seems a bit odd that Gus would be continuing to work with him in Breaking Bad after a fuck up of that level. Realistically he should be getting the box cutter next episode.
Okay, well I’m white so I’m not one to take as an authority on race. I can walk away from a race argument and get on with life. But when a POC joins the conversation and says, “Actually, that’s not cool to say”, and a bunch of white liberals double down on the argument and whitesplain why they’re taking it out of context... I mean, come on. Step back and maybe consider your words. I thought we were better than this here.
LordBy said:MrX said:LordBy said:MrX said:In Australia we have to vote - we get fined if we don’t. Is Canada the same? You need ID to register though (I am one of those few non-poor people who has constant issues with ID, because I don’t drive and I don’t have a passport). We also vote on a Saturday.
Oh, and we get a democracy sausage, which I highly recommend for encouraging voter turnout.
That is supposed to encourage turnout? What have they done to that poor sausage?