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Hi everyone, just a quick note to let you know that we have some new moderators on the forums, no doubt you're familiar with these guys.and 8 others.
So if you have questions, complaints, requests to delete that post you drunkenly bashed out at 3am and now regret, moderators are:
I get what @GredalBee is getting at. It seems to me that if you’re not one of those men who treats women like this, then the conversation is not directed at you and you have no reason to be concerned. False allegations are incredibly rare, and used as a distraction to negate the vast, vast majority of true allegations. But even if you are not a man who treats women like this, I bet you know men who do. And I bet you do nothing about it, even if it bothers you. And if it bothers you, think how the women subjected to it feel.and 5 others.
And if you’re a man who feels uncomfortable about another man being called out for this kind of behaviour, then maybe it’s because you worry about your own behaviour (past or present), or that of your friends and relatives, being examined. I keep seeing (hetero) men going on about how they feel afraid to interact with women now. Good. Maybe they should stop and think about their interactions - are you part of the problem? Do you make comments to random women about their appearance? Have you nagged and coerced your SO into sex when she clearly doesn’t want to do it? Do you make women feel uncomfortable with your words and/or behaviour? Do you even bother to notice if you’re making them uncomfortable? Instead of pulling out this instantly defensive #notallmen bullshit, maybe just shut up, sit back, and think about how you pass through the world and what effect you have. Or maybe ask the women in your life about times other men have made them feel uncomfortable or threatened or afraid or even just frustrated or dismissed. Ask them if they’ve ever had controlling boyfriends. Ask them whether they’ve ever had to deal with a creepy co-worker. I could pretty much guarantee you they will have a long list of stories. So even if you are one of the “good” guys, you have something to learn if you just make the effort to stop arguing and start listening.
I am happy that women are finally feeling comfortable enough to publicly call out men for their shitty behaviour. I hope it continues until finally men feel so uncomfortable about it they actually start to consider change. I won’t hold my breath, though.
And on the earlier topic of the leanings of this forum, everyone knows this is a largely left-leaning space. I don’t go to Breitbart and start complaining that 99% of the people there don’t agree with me. If you lean right, you will be challenged here, by multiple people. If you can handle that, fine - feel free to state your opinions (within the rules of the forum). If you don’t like that, then there are plenty of right wing forums out there who will confirm your world view and pat you on the back for upsetting some bleeding heart SJWs.
Congratulations! My only useful advice is to avoid internet parenting forums like the plague. I'm not even kidding. They are a hot bed of judgemental crazies and no matter what you're doing there will be an online gang ready to pile on and tell you you're doing it wrong and probably abusing your child in the process.and 4 others.
I have one child (18 now) and as someone who didn't grow up around much younger siblings and had no parent friends at the time, I was clueless. I basically treated my daughter like a tiny adult - spoke to her like I would anyone else from day one (a bit less colourful swearing, perhaps), took her with me out for breakfast or to cafes or when she was a bit older to movies and whatever artsy thing I wanted to look at. She's turned out to be a gem - which could be just her nature, but I like to take the credit. ;-)
Edit: babies make the weirdest noises. Don't panic when you hear all that snuffling and snorting they do throughout the night!
seanray said:So why is what she said any worse than what Colbert says every week on “our cartoon President?”
opps. Sorry I forgot, it’s okay when people shit on Trump and his supporters, never mind.
Alkaid13 said:Can I ban a fellow mod crimes against humanity and baking? You start with off with muffin hate as your non-serious topic Dee?! These are fighting words!!!
Okay, so when I was 16, a friend and I were invited by another friend, George, to stay the night at her family’s holiday house on the coast for her 16th birthday. She was kind of a dork and was under the illusion that myself and the other friend, Sue, were cooler than she was. We were not. We were just better at bluffing it. Anyway, she decided she wanted to drink, so we bought a cask of fruity lexia and went to the beach to drink it. Come about 11 pm and on the hill above us we suddenly see a torchlight and said torch holder getting closer and closer. When he gets to us, it’s a police officer, and he is furious with us. He starts yelling about how long he has been looking for us and all the terrible things that could have happened to us. He then hauled us all back into his police car, where he drove George back to the holiday house and then took Sue and myself to the police station, where we had to spend the night in the cell. It was just a little country town so it was all kind of in one room and he was the only cop there. The next morning he rang Sue’s dad to come and pick us up – I don’t remember now why he didn’t do that the night before; I do remember that I lied and told him we didn’t have a phone because my parents would have killed me. Maybe Sue’s dad hadn’t been home? Anyway, he didn’t seem too fazed by it – Sue had several older brothers and it was kind of a rough family, so he’d seen some things with his kids.
Monday at school we found out what had happened – George had been told by her parents to be home by 8 pm, but she hadn’t told us that. By 9-ish they were frothing at the mouth in panic and rang the police station, which is why the cop was out looking for us. Sue and I had been taken to the cop shop because George’s parents blamed us for the drinking and keeping her out late and wouldn’t have us back in the house, and we were banned from hanging out with George forever after. (I’m not even kidding – even in our early 20s she was lying to her parents about what she was doing when she came out with me.) George, being a coward, did not tell her parents that the booze was actually her idea, and therefore we were forever marked as scum in her household. I’m still a bit salty about it, not gonna lie.