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Cecily has been promoted from co-host to fiancée. Jim will continue on in his role of heterosexual life partner.and 64 others.Seriously, though, I never ever thought I'd get married again, but Cecily has proven to be an exceptional woman in the ups and downs we've shared in these past four years. I feel like the luckiest guy in the world on many, many fronts on a daily basis, and she's a big reason why. This is as close to a sure thing as I've ever experienced in my life.No date is set; with the house and studio stuff looming large in the fall there isn't time to do all that needs doing, but I'm guessing early to mid spring. Thanks to everyone for sharing in our happiness!
This happens every year. The content will start coming, but we need time to plan and do business stuff and it makes sense to do this in January when things are slow and taxes are due. Having said that, there will be 3 pods plus Lunch this week. Patience, for the Jedi it is time to eat as well, etc.and 23 others.
I'm locking and stickying this thread until this phase is over, because there isn't really meaningful discussion to be had and I totally understand people getting antsy but there's not much for it.
Peeps, I could not be prouder of our community. Not only was that fun as hell, but we raised what frankly was an unfathomable amount of money. I set $10k as the goal because I was afraid if I set it something achievable and we hit it mid way, that resetting it would screw up our donation trackers. I never expected to make half that. But you maniacs EXCEEDED it. This was just awesome to be a part of, every time I think there's a Bald Move moment that will never be topped, it does.and 20 others.
Thanks to everybody who stopped by and offered encouragement and broke the monotony, and especially everyone who gave, including the children of Bald Movers who were moved to donate their allowance, tooth fairy money, and Christmas money by the example of their parents. Just absolutely incredible.
Now, excuse me, I must go pass out.
So today is the officially official launch of the Kickstarter to publish a book I have co-authored, that will probably be called Gods of Thrones. My co-author is Anthony Le Donne, a religious scholar who has published several tomes on Jewish and Christian origins. Anthony approached me back in January about an idea he had to examine the religions of Song/Game as if they were real, and use connections to their real life historical counterpoints Martin used for inspiration to glean new insights into the plot and characters we all love. I thought his ideas were extremely interesting, and over several lunch / breakfast / skype sessions we hammered out the basic outline of the book and decided on a tone the work should have, which I would describe as irreverent scholarship.and 19 others.
We shopped the idea around to several publishers, and we had a few offers. The problem was that a lot of the academic press Anthony traditionally has dealt with wasn't too crazy about the irreverence, and the popular press wasn't too crazy on the deep dives into obscure ancient faiths. I think it was me who suggested the "fuck it, what if we Kickstart this thing and publish it ourselves?" And now we're here:
I don't want to belabor the point, because there is a whole page and video explaining what we're trying to do and how you can help and what you can expect to get out of the project as a backer. But I honestly think this is a cool project, I've learned a ton, Anthony has some great ideas, I've laughed aloud at several points in the manuscript we have so far, and I think the average Game of Thrones fan will find this book insightful and entertaining.
In the weeks to come, (the campaign lasts until August 8th, 2018) we'll be previewing art, samples text from the book, do a Q&A session, and hopefully entice enough people to help out and we'll get to do this thing. I'll also start up a FAQ for those FAQs that people tend to have. Maybe you have some. Maybe we can even discuss them in the space below?
Yeah guys and gals, at this point, Jim and I really don't care what mental gymnastics people are doing to avoid labeling Trump a racist, or avoid thinking they are supporting a racist who implements racist policy. Or if they're holding their nose because they like other things that perhaps aren't racist and they want to overlook the racist shit he does. I can't understand it myself. It's unlikely any amazing insights are going to be generated by such a "debate".and 17 others.
As mentioned, Jim and I are working on a joint statement to clarify this issue. It will include plenty of N U A N C E and E M P A T H Y. It will reflect our shared history of previously thinking things we now consider backwards and ugly. But it's getting time everyone in this country and indeed the world has to pick a side about certain things that are going on in plain sight in this government, and if you listen to our BlacKkKlansman podcast, it's not hard to see which side we're taking.
Plenty of public and prominent conservatives have repudiated Trump. That Trump is a racist is not a fringe opinion, it is both mainstream and widely accepted. I don't really care what's in the man's heart. I don't think it's interesting to question if he's "really" a racist, just like I'm sure gay people didn't care 20 years ago when I was making an asshole of myself online arguing against gay marriage that I didn't personally hate them. Cause I truly never did. I was just advocating that they shouldn't be allowed to have a legally recognized relationship because I genuinely felt it was bad for society. Was I really homophobic? Did the difference matter?
Conservative people who are still supporting Trump are welcome here in the same way that I as a liberal gun owner am welcome at my local shooting range. I am welcome to shoot, talk about gun safety and performance and ask questions about models and ammo and what not. I'm not welcome to argue against the 2nd amendment or hand wring about school shooting or even wear a "I'm with her" shirt. If I did I'd expect to be on thin ice and if I was making their community angry be asked to leave.
We've worked hard to build a community that people of color, and queer people and women feel welcome and respected. It's been a long road for Jim and I get get to this place, and we feel these values and ethos are vital for moving forward as a society and indeed a species. Whether intentional or not, whether people's hearts are in the right places or not, I can clearly see that I'm welcoming these people into a space where a very small number of folks are allowed to make them feel unsafe and disrespected, to the point where they feel they can't engage with these folks without violating forum rules.
At the end of the day, we're private business owners who are exercising our rights to free association and expression, and if we have to decide to come down on one side or another as citizens to create a community that reflects our ethos then so be it. We feel that this will have the end result of making our community stronger. We are not turning this into a left wing organization. If we manage to attract a few soviet-style authoritarian leftist apologists and Nation of Yahweh types with our rhetoric please trust when I say that Jim and I will kindly tell them to shut the fuck up or get out, too. If democrats and other leftist forces manage to regain a few levers of power in this country, we will continue to point out their hypocrisy and failings like we did during the Obama administration. We're not blind that if you dig deep enough and look hard enough there are crazy leftists out there. I've run into my share. It's just that they're certainly not a dominant force in society, nor causing problems on these forums. That's why "both sides" arguments are at some level, willfully ignorant, displaying a profound lack of empathy, or made in bad faith.
If you think this is extreme or total bullshit, I don't know what to tell you. Enjoy the shooting range, but leave your MAGA hats in your glovebox, or our polite and professional mods will show you to the door.
@anubus21: "I don't argue that the pendulum needed to swing back in the favor of women but it has swung so far that innocent men have and will be hurt by it. Some may say that is sad but it's what is needed for progress. I don't believe that destroying the lives of the innocent is every going to be a good justification for progress."and 15 others.
This is a fantasy, though. Everyone wants the pendulum to stop right in the center of "dead even" when it comes to equality, or at least that's what they believe they want. The problem is, you can't even see where that mid-point is going to be. You can't get everyone on the same page on "take women seriously." You have people in this thread arguing sexual assault isn't really sexual assault. You have people in this thread (which as you correctly point out, has a leftist bent to the community already) saying that she should have just left. You have people on the internet that come to threads like this just to make sure everyone knows that women are total sluts, amirite, and shouldn't be trusted. And then of course you have the actual men who are actually abusing women from positions of power in 2018 and there are more of them than a lot of imagined and a lot more people knew about it and did nothing. This is a society that is going to swing the pendulum to dead center?
All the Jehovah's Witnesses should just leave the cult en masse. That's a stone cold, empirical fact. I wonder why they don't. Probably because they aren't as smart and strong as I was. Or maybe there are a lot of complicated reasons related to the fact that we're all flawed humans with loaded software that isn't really compatible with our modern life. I think it's funny that just about anytime we talk in depth about our cult experience, we get emails saying either "all religions are cults, and just as stupid as any other", or "I don't see how anyone could get sucked into something so stupid." Not only are these statements insulting to my personal experience, they also ignore virtually everything I carefully said about my experience. I can only imagine how it would feel to have a personal experience of abuse be dismissed by people who don't even know me.
What are the chances, then, that this community of people, say, the Bald Move Forum, or The United States, or even The World, are going to swing the pendulum perfectly on the side of "just right, perfect equality."
I know that's what you want. You can hand wave a paragraph about justice and the deplorable plight of women and other minorities because hey, you get it. You're not a monster. You just don't want that pendulum swinging in your direction, because Jesus Christ, imagine being persecuted for something you didn't even do or being treated like a second class citizen just for the color of your skin or what's between your legs! Nobody wants that. This fear and dread and anger that the thought inspires are the real lived experiences of the people on the other side of that pendulum.
But that's exactly why, I'm telling you, man, it's going to happen. And there will be a backlash against it. The pendulum will swing the other way. There will be a backlash against that. Each time, we grow a bit wiser, and more empathetic. One day, we will achieve something like equality for all, but it's not going to be tomorrow or the next or probably even 100 years from now.
As far as this community and it's rules go, I don't think this persecution complex I see among some of our conservative members is an not especially good look. I will say that, entering a liberal community and expecting not to be lectured and scolded for espousing conservative viewpoints is just super silly. I can't talk about my feelings for Lost without taking shit, and I co-own this place. There's no way you can come here and talk about women's rights, foreign policy and economics and expect to be kissed on both cheeks. This talk of "we all want the same things" is further wishful thinking. We don't all want the same things. We don't all cherish the same ideals.
Regardless, conservative members of this board have to realize that at best, you're the Apostle Paul in the Areopagus. You have to do better than point at all of our idols and say, "you're shit is all fucked up and you think weird." You're going to have to be more patient, more persuasive, and more empathetic if you want to be heard. If you meet resistance, cool off, be more patient, be more persuasive. You might even change your mind on some things. But flouncing or being a dick because surprise, surprise, people with deep seated and long held views born from personal experience won't just yield to your "logic and facts and concerns" is not going to get the job done and will likely end in hurt feelings.
I'm not saying this to single anyone out. I just used Annubis' post as a starting point for my essay, to highlight what I see as the fallacy of this sort of appeals to justice and reason. I wish I had more time to participate and moderate. This is messy and hard to move forward with as a society. But people have to realize that this concern that a man, a very powerful, very wealthy, very well connected man, gets some sort of fair trial in the court of public opinion when we're (hopefully!) coming out of a trough of a long standing wave of marginalizing women and other minority viewpoints is going to be seen as trying to put your thumb on one side of the scales of justice or the other. It an additional layer of injustice on something that is already unjust laid at the alter of some concept of perfect justice. It's something I've become more cognizant of lately, speaking out is a form of advocacy. Hardwick is already the 800lb gorilla in this room, not his ex, and yet there are many people who feel the opposite. If he's innocent, he has immense power to correct this personal injustice. Honestly, this is just something I'm waking up to pretty recently, because I value justice and impartiality as much as anyone. The crucial realization is we don't play on a level playing field, and pretending that we do is in itself perpetuating the imbalance.
General update: We raised about $3500 in the past 24 hours. That's just off forum and social media traffic, which I think is amazing. The big podcast push starts next week. We're working on getting the site ready with landing pages and banners today and over the weekend, and getting the short form of our message honed. I'm feeling pretty optimistic. I can't thank everyone enough for the support thus far!and 13 others.