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One of the many reasons I love Bald Move and this community is the opportunity to chat about common interests with people whose experiences are different from mine. If I want to know how a gay person feels about the portrayal of a gay couple on Star Trek, I can get at least a couple perspectives here from people who are both gay and real fans of the property. Those circles don't touch in the venn diagram of people I know personally. That's just one example.and 5 others.
I want everyone to be a Bald Move fan and participate ESPECIALLY if they don't look, sound, walk, talk or fuck like me.
@A_Ron_Hubbard I want you and @Jim to know that I switched to paying monthly and avoid renewing during discount promotions because you take stands like this.
I've been reading and staying silent on the advice of my wife, who wisely pointed out that participating in this conversation was affecting my mood and I needed a break. With some time to consider my thoughts, I do want to say a few things.No one wants to see an innocent person accused of something terrible, but are the victims of real abuse any less innocent? How many of their lives should be destroyed to make sure it stays hard for women to come forward? Is protecting men from false accusations a good justification? I see a lot of evidence that people are worried about increased false accusations rates. That's a natural worry as #metoo gains traction. What I don't see is evidence that the rates are actually increasing or differ significantly from the rates at which other crimes are falsely reported.We're not talking about tilting the playing field against men so we spend every day defending ourselves from unfounded allegations because there are no consequences for lying. We are talking about removing societal barriers and preconceptions (like the ones expressed in this thread) that make it harder for actual victims to tell the truth. There may well be a larger number of false accusations (I doubt it but I'm willing to accept the possibility), but I am supremely confident the overall percentage of allegations that turn out to be false would drop if it were easier for real victims to come forward. We are not even close to the point where sexual misconduct allegations are an "easy win" for a malicious woman. Just look at this thread.On the other hand, every day women and girls have to think about how they behave, dress, and speak and wonder how the men they encounter will react. Will someone with more social, financial, or physical power decide to use that power to harm her career, reputation, or person? How much harder will it be for her to meet her goals as a woman? Would it be easier as a man? Would it be easier if she just dressed like one?! (All signs point to yes - thanks for that insight Jaime)I have no sympathy for powerful men who have to start thinking about whether they should meet with a woman alone in their office at 9pm because they don't want to be vulnerable to a false accusation. If they don't know the woman well enough to trust her, they should be thinking about how she feels being invited into that situation.For public opinion purposes, as others have said, reputation goes a looooooooooong way. If I wake up tomorrow to a story like this about Tom Hanks, I'm skeptical. Chris Hardwick is no Tom Hanks. And regardless, neither of them need me to stick up for them and demand evidence on their behalf.
That's at least the second troll to get banned responding to me.Am I the canary in the Bald Move coal mine? I'm picturing @Alkaid13 sitting at his computwr thinking "Jesus Christ this guy can't even get along with the Canadians".Pour one out for Emn and Shin.
shing said:Right @A_Ron_Hubbard. So what happens if or when the show reveals that the black characters in this show have been led to participate in a race war by a Klansman? Will you drop the show?You've really lost the plot here @shing. I'd tell you to hold off on the victory lap until you're proven correct, but I have a feeling you're going to take whatever happens as validation whether it makes sense or not.Edit: I'll just add, if you think the premise of the show is that alt-right fuckwads are blameless victims being terrorized by black police for no reason, I'm not sure there's common ground for us to find. That's not the two episodes of television I just watched.
I recently took on a new role at work and it has me working closely (and much more) with colleagues in the UK and India. I've got a serious case of imposter syndrome at the moment, but at least I'm now mature enough to realize that's what it is - a small victory in itself.Scheduling is a nightmare BUT it's also an opportunity to learn more about different cultures. Happy Diwali everyone!
I'm going to say @alexisonpaper is in a great position to revive "Mildly Interesting" from its early grave.