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Adding on to the idea of Focus, one thing that I love about BM is that they don’t waste time with small talk at the beginning. I only have a limited amount of time and a lot of podcasts To cram in, so I hate it when podcast hosts take a while to get to what their show is really about. Especially if I’m a new listener.
I think Jim and Aron are great at just getting into it and following their structure while at the same time allowing some space for ideas to grow and expand organically out of the topic at hand.
I’ve been digging the new James Blake album. And have become kind of obsessed with one song in particular, “What’s the Catch” featuring Andre 3000. I don’t know how many times I’ve played this song in the past few days.
I tend to not make comments in these types of threads as I don’t often feel I have anything of value to add that hasn’t already been said. But I just want to say that I find these types of threads and discussions to be incredibly valuable and I am constantly impressed by the Bald Move community’s ability have discussions like these and largely remain civil. It’s easily my favorite place on the internet.
And I am so appreciative of the voices of so many people here sharing experiences and ideas from perspectives outside of my personal life experience. One thing that I have made a conscious effort to do over the past year or so is start following more women and people of color on Twitter and unfollowing a lot of the white dudes I used to follow and it’s completely changed the stuff that I am exposed to and has really opened my eyes to a lot of viewpoints I just hadn’t considered before.
One thing I did want to say on the issue of sexual harassment/abuse is that I really think the onus needs to be put on men. This is an idea I saw someone tweet about, so I can’t take credit, but we often talk about sexual harassment/abuse as something that happens to women, as opposed to something that men are actively doing, and that is a problem. When you talk about it in the passive voice it makes it seem like it’s just a thing that happens and there’s nothing we can do about it. One sickening example in Tokyo is that there used to be a sign near the stairs in Akihabara station (The electronics capital of Japan) that warned women that men may be lurking to take upskirt photos so they should be careful. But where was the sign warning men not to be predatory assholes and not do that type of shit? Sexual harassment/abuse runs rampant in this country and nobody likes to talk about it. It’s kind of normalized actually, which scares me.
Also, following on from what @hypergenesb was saying about raising a daughter, I have a 4-month old daughter and I have a lot of the same anxieties and she’s still just a baby. I also have a 3-year old son and, and I am doing everything I can to raise him to be a good man and be respectful of women. But I also know I won’t be around him as much once he’s in school and and I’m really worried about influences around him and I just hope that I can do enough. In any case I have a lot of anxieties about that too.