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@A_Ron_Hubbard - I know where you're coming from. I was raised in a fundie Christian cult and my younger self would hate my current self. I know about reframing how things sound in your head against your younger self and thinking, "Nope, that would never do," as far as anything persuasive.
And, I think it's really hard to make both sides feel good at the same time. There's just a lot of anger. I feel like a different person when I'm talking to conservatives versus liberals, and sometimes I wonder who I really am. I mean, I don't change my values, but when I'm talking to conservatives, for example, I let a lot slide. It makes me think, Do I have a spine at all? Haha.
I know you don't want sympathy, but I'm sure it's pretty dicey talking to both audiences at the same time. I'm not sure how I'd do it.
I wonder if this is a problem unique to those of us who have changed our opinions and lifestyles drastically. We know keenly what worked for us. Whereas, people who have not changed their opinions and lifestyles drastically, they just have theories. One friend wondered to me once, "Can people even change their minds?" She was thinking how it wasn't worth it to try. And I reminded her how much I'd changed my mind, and she got hopeful then. So, it seems for some people, they aren't burdened by the compulsion to keep an open line to those who disagree with them. Their hope comes and goes. For me, that hope is a constant.
Re: this being hard to get over...
It broke my heart when the Mad Men writer said she doubted her writing talent after Matthew Weiner's sexual harrassment. I've been there. I had my writing praised to high heaven by a man 11 years older than me (I was 20), have conversations with me of a sexual nature (which didn't bother me, then or now), say that he has little patience for women who can't make up their mind if they liked him or not (which I DID understand as a threat), and then proceed to cut me out of his life when I ... what? Didn't fuck him, I guess? This creative, talented writer I saw as a mentor. Fuck yeah I doubted my writing ability after a year of him helping me with it under false pretenses.
I didn't just lose him as a creative partner; I lost all the creative men and women around him too. He ruled that gang.
And that's nothing close to what she went through.
"The fact that women still put themselves out there in this environment of wolves and wolves wearing sheepskins is amazing." - via @A_Ron_Hubbard
We need $$! I've been lucky in that most of my jobs have been where my father/brother own the companies. People know not to touch me. I'm about to enter a job though where I'm an unknown. I'm older now, but we'll see
I'm incredibly interested in Kater Gordon's latest effort to help women who might face these situations. I know I would absolutely freeze if my boss suggested something. (And am I more a target if they know I'm gay?) I took a Self Defense class... I could use one related to unwanted advances.
Murderbear said:I don't know why I keep thinking about this but I think he doesn't actually have a publicist. I think he is one of those guys that handles that stuff on their own. I think that because of their name.
"Hi, this is Louis CK's publicist and for the record, he has no comment at this time."
NYT : "Okay, and what is your name?"
LCK: (not prepared for this question) "My name? Uhhh Leeeewwwwisss Kay. Yes. Lewis Kay. That is the name I said. My name is Lewis Kay and I represent Louis CK."
That's funny. But it seems legit.