311 - We Can Be Heroes
Andrew New York
I'm incredulous that you guys were defending Caputo's Nay-by Momma and Hank.
I realize that Caputo made an unsolicited offer to stay and help provide for the woman, but once she accepts that offer, she has to be held accountable for her actions. When you enter that type of situation, there is an implication that there will be a partnership. If you accept a house, money, and a father for your child, all the while knowing Joe's motivations, you do your best to stay in a committed relationship. And if you need to leave, do so in a better way than by saying you're going back to the guy you cheated with because he's become very successful.
And don't even get me started on Hank. Hank is scummier than pubic hair blowpop. You don't sleep with your friend's girlfriends no matter what. It'd be like you sleeping with Mad Brew's lady when they were on a break. Nothing about that would be okay. And then, Hank LET Caputo take care of his kid and miss their tour. If he were a decent person, he'd step in and forbid it, and take care of things himself. AND THEN, HE BREAKS THEM UP AGAIN KNOWING WHAT JOE'S DONE FOR HER! My head is about to explode!
I do, however, think that the point of this wasn't that Joe has outrageous expectations. I think it's him not being able to recognize the red flags or negative possibilities in situations. Just like privatizing the prison, he ONLY sees the positive, never preparing for the worst.
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You can't control what other people in your life do. All you can control is what you put out into the world, how you treat yourself, and the decisions you make. Can Joe be dissappointed that his foolish gamble on supporting his ex and the child that's not even his didn't work out? Sure. Can he call his ex a "whore", and carry that anger into the rest of his life, never letting it go, continually compounding his poor decisions and blaming them on others? Well, sure, he can, but I'm critical of that.
I mean, are you guys really saying that Joe should have taken his ex back after she cheated on him, and when she revealed that she was still cheating on him while she was being "faithful" to him, that he should have supported her and a child that wasn't his? Don't you think THAT is the problem in his life, and not that some girl at some point cheated on him? I'm sure drunk at a bar, he'd tell people the story of how some bitch ruined his life, how he could have been great. But did she ruin his life, or did he ruin it himself?